The Self-Concept Resists Change

I agree that even though we change, we have a tendency to cling to our existing self-concept. This can be because our past self-concept is better than the new one or it could be that it is just hard to accept any changes, even if they are better. I always had a negative self-concept growing up. I always felt that no matter what I did people were always smarter than me, better at sports than me, or had a better life then me. As I grew up, I found out that my life isnt so bad. There are people with major family issues, learning issues, and people who didnt have the oppurtunity to play sports. Even though I saw this, for years I still saw my self-concept as being stuck in my elementary and junior high years. I think that finally after years went by and people telling me your life doesnt suck too bad, I actually started believing it myself.