Consider When and Where to Express Your Feelings

I believe in the statement "there is a time and a place for everything". An issue that I can think of where I had to wait for the right moment, was discussing with my boyfriend how much it bothered me that he wasn't looking for a job. I knew that just coming out and telling him would not work because it would just be brushed off. This was something I thought out carefully. I had to think of both my feelings and his. I imagined this conversation in advance. I thought about what I would say, what he would say, and then what I would say back.
When it came down to actually talking to him I had feelings of nervousness, but after I was happy. I had to choose a time that was right for the both of us. Bringing it up in front of his friends wouldn't have been polite of me. I wanted this to be a real conversation so I didn't just want to add it onto a fight we were having.
I chose a time when it was just the two of us. We were having a good night and I said that I wanted to talk about something, but didn't want to ruin the night. I picked a time where we weren't going anywhere so we had plenty of time to talk. I talked about how I felt about work ethics and why I would want to look for a job. At first he expressed feelings that were some of anger, but then he understood where I was coming from.
I think that choosing the right place and time to have this conversation made a huge difference!