The Pillow Method

I was never a person that did well at empathizing. An example of when I used the pillow method was when my friend and I got talking on political issues. Position one of the pillow method was "I'm Right, You're Wrong", which is the usual stage I stay in no matter what. I found faults in his side of making abortions legal. So, as we were talking, I tried to flip the stage, moving to position two which was "You're Right, I'm Wrong". I thought about everything my friend was saying and why they might think that. I did pull out a couple flaws in my arguement as well. Position three was easier to come to than position two. Position three is seeing that we are Both Right, Both Wrong. We almost had a debate, but more made of list of all the strengths and weaknesses of our arguements. During this time, we saw that there were a few perspectives we saw eye to eye on. Position four is The Issue Isn't as Important as It Seems. As we continued to talk about his we realized that this was not a situation that we should be seen as extremely important. Although it is one of today's top controversial subjects, we saw that maybe neither side was 100% correct, but by working together a better perspective could be taken into consideration.