Defensive Listening

I am the queen of defensive listening. I am the type of person who always thinks they are right, even if they really are not. In the book they say it is often teenagers that perceive their parents questions as distrustful. I am not a teenager anymore, but still have that issue. My parents are constantly asking me where I am going, what I am doing, and when I will be home. Deep down I know that they are just asking because they care about me, but most of the time I take it as them not trusting me. When they are asking a ton of questions is the time that I become a defensive listener. The other night I came home later then I said I was going to be out. The next day they started drilling me, asking who were you with, what were you doing that you were out so late? I started saying things like why does it matter. This just led them to asking more questions because they thought I was hiding something. In reality it would be a lot easier if I would just ask their questions instead of becoming defensive. I hope with time (as I get further away from my teenage years) I am able to become less defensive and or they stop asking me so many questions!